How easy is it for us to really say thank you, next? As I sit here listening to the radio and Ariana Grande song, Thank You Next keep repeating and as she thanks all her ax, I thought to myself how many of us could say thank you and be grateful to the lessons we have learned or earned. It’s easy for us to become attached to a person, things, feeling, ideas or even an event, because it give us comfort or a sense of needs. We all want to feel needed and important right? And sometimes it’s to fill a void in us and fear of letting go. We fight to hold on, because change is never easy. But we all know attachment is the root to suffering, so how do we let go? It’s no easy task.

“Most of our troubles are due to our passionate desire for and attachment to things that we misapprehend as enduring entities.” -Dalai Lama

We all want to feel happy and avoid being hurt, but yet we consistently put ourselves in situations that set us up for pain. We want to get away from situations and toxic people that cause us pain. it doesn’t matter how many songs or motivational quotes we read, It’s easier said then done, we all know that. I let go, now what!!? Exactly, now what? If we see ourselves still asking that question, then did we really let go? We end a relationship, a situation, but that doesn’t mean we have let go of the attachment we have toward it. Sometime we will hold on to the anger or even creating an anger toward it, so that we have something to cling on to. We get angry, blame the other person, blame ourselves just so we could justified what has happened. We drinks, we get a tattoo inviting more pain to ourselves trying to forget. That was exactly what I did when my dog passed away and after I have ended a bad relationship; I went and got myself a tattoo to remind myself to forget. Like the song by Kygo “remind to forget,” interesting right? How do you forget and let go if you are reminded. Well the thing is in order to let go, you don’t need to forget. We remove the attachment to the thing, person, situation that caused us suffering, but we don’t need to forget what has happened. Because it’s only when we are able to look at our scar, tattoo that’s reminding us of what has happened without any resentment then we can say, we have thoroughly let go and are at peace. So lets make peace with ourselves instead of fighting it. To do that we accept what is and let go what was. Don’t try to hold on to what of yesterday, forgive…don’t try to bring the blame or fault of the past up because that has already been gone, instead just see it as a lesson we have earned.

Meditation: To meditate on this, we need to first become aware of our attachments, we then removing it by accepting the changes. We welcome and enjoy the present moment, Knowing that it will eventually pass and that nothing is permanent.

Experience, appreciate, enjoy, and let go to welcome another experience – Thank You Next.

I hope you find this helpful for your practice, we will talk more on Attachment, Expectation, Desire in a later post until then I hope you have a peaceful day and as always thank you for reading.